"Rape is vastly underreported across the board, but African-American women are significantly less likely to report than white women are. In fact, a Department of Justice study found that while one out of six white women report sexual assault, just one out of 16 black women do. For many of Holtzclaw’s alleged victims, the added complexities of class and previous arrests made the choice of of keeping quiet less threatening than being stalked and sexually battered. (Holtzclaw reportedly assaulted some of his victims multiple times.) Lots of people will dwell on this — it’s a wink-nudge way of talking around race — while ignoring the fact that there are black women in every sphere, in every class, in every town, who wrestle with the reality that our bodies and lives are simply valued less. It is an incredibly sad fact, with long historical roots. A heartbreaking truth that, sadly and surely, Daniel Holtzclaw knew all too well."


� Kali Holloway, "When You’re A Black Woman, You’re Never Good Enough To Be A Victim" (via ethiopienne)

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Race, Gender and Violence

gradientlair:

Usually, I ignore really really ignorant tweets (that I usually see through retweet as I’ve never directly followed any men like this) like the one at the end of this post, but it brought this topic back to mind. And no, that tweet isn’t a “lone” thought out in the middle of…




"In the 1890s, when Freud was in the dawn of his career, he was struck by how many of his female patients were revealing childhood [sexual] victimization to him. Freud concluded that child sexual abuse was one of the major causes of emotional disturbances in adult women and wrote a brilliant and humane paper called “The Aetiology of Hysteria.” However, rather than receiving acclaim from his colleagues for his ground-breaking insights, Freud met with scorn. He was ridiculed for believing that men of excellent reputation (most of his patients came from upstanding homes) could be perpetrators of incest.
Within a few years, Freud buckled under this heavy pressure and recanted his conclusions. In their place he proposed the “Oedipus complex,” which became the foundation of modern psychology… Freud used this construct to conclude that the episodes of abuse his clients had revealed to him had never taken place; they were simply fantasies of events the women had wished for… This construct started a hundred-year history in the mental health field of blaming victims for the abuse perpetrated on them and outright discrediting of women’s and children’s reports of mistreatment by men."


― Lundy Bancroft

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read this carve it into your brains permanently etch it into your skulls r e a d  t h i s

(via miss-mizi)

NEVER.
FORGET.

(via feministbatwoman)

ugh i think about this a lot and how young girls who have been raped or molested or victims of incest are often stereotyped as perverted or hypersexual - as if they were equal participants or asked for it. and how hard it is to tell someone about abuse when you know that’s how you will be treated

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somethingsonmymind2:

slowlyblowme:

kittykait04:

gorogoroiu:

honkschraders:

metal-thimble:

geekscoutcookies:

luvyourselfsomeesteem:

tidiness:

after reblogging this i opened up a card my great aunt gave me it has money in it

It could be a complete coincidence but I reblogged this yesterday and toda I fouund $40 at the fruit maket

Eh,why not

#this is dumb#but i’m desperate

when you got nothing you got nothing to lose

I got a job after reblogging this !

Just got a job

Please be real

I better win the lottery off this

somethingsonmymind2:

slowlyblowme:

kittykait04:

gorogoroiu:

honkschraders:

metal-thimble:

geekscoutcookies:

luvyourselfsomeesteem:

tidiness:

after reblogging this i opened up a card my great aunt gave me it has money in it

It could be a complete coincidence but I reblogged this yesterday and toda I fouund $40 at the fruit maket

Eh,why not

when you got nothing you got nothing to lose

I got a job after reblogging this !

Just got a job

Please be real

I better win the lottery off this

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http://the-adebisi-wombosi-identity.tumblr.com/post/98786185759/that-shit-cray-but-its-real-joe-a-lot-of-these

the-adebisi-wombosi-identity:

that shit cray but it’s real joe. a lot of these niggas in the Chi aint shit. my city full of fuckshit wack niggas. a nigga pulled his dick out in the club at the bar on my ex once. a nigga played with himself in front of me and a homegirl on the red line till i showed that nigga my blade and he…

I live in Maryland im so glad I’m married to my husband. If I was single, id never date. Im not bold enough after seeing some of the things I see everyday especially at my job.




http://blackfeminism.tumblr.com/post/97369238728/lareinaana-white-women-cannot-be-intersectional

lareinaana:

White women cannot be intersectional though. Like, intersectional isn’t an adjective, it isn’t a verb, it isn’t a descriptor of a person. Its “intersectional experiences” that matter and are the crux of the whole “conversation.” There is no “being intersectional” involved.

The…




http://blackfeminism.tumblr.com/post/97370173318/blackfeminism-i-suggest-that-african-american

blackfeminism:

"I suggest that African-American women were not included in pornography as an afterthought but instead form a key pillar on which contemporary pornography itself rests. As Alice Walker points out, "The more ancient roots of modern pornography are to be found in the almost…




"Women’s social condition is built on a simple premise: women can be fucked and bear babies, therefore women must be fucked and bear babies. Sometimes, especially among the sophisticated, “penetrated” is substituted for “fucked”: women can be penetrated, therefore women must be penetrated. This logic does not apply to men, whichever word is used: men can be fucked, therefore men must be fucked; men can be penetrated, therefore men must be penetrated. This logic applies only to women and sex. One does not say, for instance, women have delicate hands, therefore women must be surgeons. Or women have legs, therefore women must run, jump, climb. Or women have minds, therefore women must use them. One does learn, however, that women have sex organs that must be used by men, or the women are not women: they are somehow less or more, either of which is bad and thoroughly discouraged. Women are defined, valued, judged, in one way only: as women—that is, with sex organs that must be used. Other parts of the body do not signify, unless used in sex or as an indicator of sexual availability or desirability. Intelligence does not count. It has nothing to do with what a woman is."


Right-Wing Women, by Andrea Dworkin

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This is why equating mummy issues with women’s issues and labeling it “feminism”, is so harmful.

(via thebitchyspider)

She was so frequently on point for a racist.

(via artisansoulleader)

this made me think about blackness marking inherent enslaveability. white history could enhance these bterfs understanding of patriarchy

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"That same day white jurors giggled while Mrs. Mary Ruth Reed, a pregnant black sharecropper, testified that Lewis Medlin, a white mechanic, attempted to rape her in front of her five children. In an effort to get help, she scooped up her youngest child and ran across a field. Medlin knocked her down and pummeled her until a neighbor finally heard her screams and called the police. In court, Medlin’s attorney argued that he had been drinking and was ‘just having a little fun.’ Then, turning to the white jurors, the attorney pointed to the woman sitting next to Medlin. ‘You see this pure white woman, this pure flower of life?’ he said. ‘… This is Medlin’s wife … Do you think he would have left this pure flower, God’s greatest gift,’ he asked, ‘for THAT?’ Reed burst into tears as the jury broke for deliberation. Less than ten minutes later they returned a not guilty verdict."


At the Dark End of the Street; Black Women, Rape, and Resistance — A New History of the Civil Rights Movement from Rosa Parks to the Rise of Black Power, by Danielle L. McGuire, p. 42 (via inlovewiththepractice)

heartbreaking.

(via teamocorazon)

if you ever need to read this book for a paper or research or…I don’t, just be warned that it gets worse than this, so much worse. It’s probably the only book I have that I know I can’t ever finish.

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(Source: andikilledelevenofthem, via blackfeminism)




"Elsewhere I have argued that the Black is a sentient being though not a Human being. The Black’s and the Human’s disparate relationship to violence is at the heart of this failure of incorporation and analogy. The Human suffers contingent violence, violence that kicks in when s/he resists (or is perceived to resist) the disciplinary discourse of capital and/or Oedipus. But Black peoples’ subsumption by violence is a paradigmatic necessity, not just a performative contingency. To be constituted by and disciplined by violence, to be gripped simultaneously by subjective and objective vertigo, is indicative of a political ontology which is radically different from the political ontology of a sentient being who is constituted by discourse and disciplined by violence when s/he breaks with the ruling discursive codes. When we begin to assess revolutionary armed struggle in this comparative context, we find that Human revolutionaries (workers, women, gays and lesbians, post-colonial subjects) suffer subjective vertigo when they meet the state’s disciplinary violence with the revolutionary violence of the subaltern; but they are spared objective vertigo. This is because the most disorienting aspects of their lives are induced by the struggles that arise from intra-Human conflicts over competing conceptual frameworks and disputed cognitive maps, such as the American Indian Movement’s demand for the return of Turtle Island vs. the U.S.’s desire to maintain territorial integrity, or the Fuerzas Armadas de Liberación Nacional’s (FALN) demand for Puerto Rican independence vs. the U.S.’s desire to maintain Puerto Rico as a territory. But for the Black, as for the slave, there are no cognitive maps, no conceptual frameworks of suffering and dispossession which are analogic with the myriad maps and frameworks which explain the dispossession of Human subalterns."


-Frank B Wilderson III

http://occupywallstreet.net/story/incomprehensible-black-anarchist-position

(via experiencingthegirlfriend)

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thatprettymvthafvcka:

brookeyfbaby:

YOU GUYS THIS IS SO IMPORTANT 

Spread all the evidence you have like wildfire. Don’t stop being angry even though there’s less press on this.

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http://blackpowerisforblackmen.tumblr.com/post/98577065487/angrywocunited-black-girls-can-suffer-from

angrywocunited:

Black girls can suffer from Depression.

Black girls can suffer from Bipolar Disorder.

Black girls can suffer from Schizophrenia.

Black girls can suffer from Eating Disorders.

Black girls can suffer from OCD.

Black girls can self-harm.

Black girls can be suicidal.




naturallydope:

dope-girlzilla:

dynastylnoire:

stayxsvckaxfree:

From the Strolling Series by Cecile Emeke

free condoms; pay for tampons, typecasting, “selling out”, rape culture & more

I love this series, and everything she said completely resonated with me, especially when she talked about how black men (#FakeDeeps, as Cecile cleverly put it) contribute to sexism towards black women. I think it’s important that feminism places women as central to the cause, and I loved how she spoke from her who point of view as a black women. 

The Filmaker’s Info 

Website: cecileemeke.com
Vimeo: vimeo.com/cecileemeke
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Tumblr: cecileemeke.tumblr.com
Instagram: @cecileemeke
Twitter: @cecileemeke

exposing the ankhs

I love these!!! Keep em coming

HOLY FUCK
HOLY FUCK
HOLY FUCK




LOVE

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flyhigherfirefly:

popping-smoke:

mbisthegame:

oparnoshoshoi:

anarchyandacupofcoffee:

OK Highway Patrol Captain George Brown says the best “tip” for women to not get raped by a cop is to “follow the law in the first place so you don’t get pulled over.”http://youtu.be/BO8g8akPWcY (Last third of the video).
Three serial rapists in 3 weeks arrested in Oklahoma, all cops.
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Pro tip: if you’re signaled to pull over (whether you’re male or female) and you’re in a place that has no witnesses, turn your hazard lights on to acknowledge the officer’s siren, and drive to the nearest gas station or populated area. This is accepted protocol by every agency. You are not obligated pull over until you can do so safely. This includes personal safety. Understand your rights, brothers and sisters. There are disgusting examples of authority in this world.

ALSO! Call 911/non-emergency sheriff’s line before you open your door or window. A cop has to immediately call in when he’s pulling a vehicle over so the dispatcher can tell you if it’s legit.

flyhigherfirefly:

popping-smoke:

mbisthegame:

oparnoshoshoi:

anarchyandacupofcoffee:

OK Highway Patrol Captain George Brown says the best “tip” for women to not get raped by a cop is to “follow the law in the first place so you don’t get pulled over.”
http://youtu.be/BO8g8akPWcY (Last third of the video).

Three serial rapists in 3 weeks arrested in Oklahoma, all cops.

Follow for Anarchy | Follow for Feminism

Pro tip: if you’re signaled to pull over (whether you’re male or female) and you’re in a place that has no witnesses, turn your hazard lights on to acknowledge the officer’s siren, and drive to the nearest gas station or populated area. This is accepted protocol by every agency. You are not obligated pull over until you can do so safely. This includes personal safety. Understand your rights, brothers and sisters. There are disgusting examples of authority in this world.

ALSO! Call 911/non-emergency sheriff’s line before you open your door or window. A cop has to immediately call in when he’s pulling a vehicle over so the dispatcher can tell you if it’s legit.

(via blackgirlcrisis)




nayyirahwaheed:

loves, in celebration of the first birthday of ‘salt.’, both ‘salt.’ and ‘nejma’ along with ‘bone’ by yrsa daley-ward will be available for FREE DOWNLOAD for kindle app/ kindle on wednesday, 10/1 - sunday, 10/5. make sure to mark your calendars :)))

nayyirahwaheed:

loves, in celebration of the first birthday of ‘salt.’, both ‘salt.’ and ‘nejma’ along with ‘bone’ by yrsa daley-ward will be available for FREE DOWNLOAD for kindle app/ kindle on wednesday, 10/1 - sunday, 10/5. make sure to mark your calendars :)))

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A Black Woman Surviving Rape




My blog is for BLACK WOMEN ONLY AND THE BLACK MEN WHO SUPPORT US. And it is from a black woman’s perspective. This is my own personal space where I can write and re blog thoughts, ideas and other people’s experiences and experiences as a black woman surviving rape in my own community.

This blog is my safe place. For years I have looked for places like this and I never found it so I had to create one for myself. This is for black women who are surviving rape. This blog is for black men who support black women who are surviving rape.

This blog is not for white women who find comfort in my words or thoughts. But this blog is strictly for black women who are rape and abuse survivors. Everyone else has their own safety net except for us so I will be making this our safety net..





I go by the name Golden Rays; I am a survivor of molestation, domestic violence and multiple rapes. I was 17 when I was raped the first time, I knew him, and he was my boyfriend. The relationship turned out to be violent and he raped me on a daily basis to get me pregnant on propose. The second time I was raped it was a friend, I reported that rape. I spent hours getting a rape kit done and talking to an insensitive police officer who then had the audacity to ask me if I thought it was selfish not to give him (the monster who raped me) oral sex. I then had 1 more rape after this (I was drugged with GHB) and 2 more sexual assaults (it didn’t lead to rape). I am 27 years old now and 21 years of my life I have been mentally, emotionally, physically and sexually abused. I had down played a lot of what happened to me. Unfortunately right now I am in the healing point in my life and I am starting over in recovery which has been the hardest thing that I have ever done. I also struggle with complex PTSD, Vaginismus and Bipolar Disorder (rapid cycling). I am a happily married mother of a 3 year old daughter (work full time). I've been with my husband for 10 years now and I’m happy to say that I married my best friend. I’m writing this blog because I’m tired of holding my feelings in without people asking me if I’m ok. I’m writing this blog because even though I am a survivor of all the things listed above, I am also a black woman. When I went to find people to talk to about my past, I couldn’t find one black woman who was willing and open enough to talk about the secretes that we hide. That is one of the things that have made healing so much worse for me. The books out there specifically for black women are few and far between. (I am in no way saying that rape has a color or a gender to it, I am not saying that other women’s rapes are less important than anyone else’s). It was hard for me to find counseling (I would always end up trying to explain my culture background to my therapists more than the assaults itself, no one could really understand what it’s like to be a black woman, which is totally understandable). I had bought the books that were out there and read them over and over until I had felt like I had the words memorized, it was as if I had wrote them, I had read them that much. But it wasn’t enough, I had always felt like I was the only black woman who has been raped (I know it’s not true though), I felt like it was just me against the world. I got tired of being one of 2 black women in support groups, I felt alone. I'm writing this blog because the black community has its dark deep secrets. We don’t stand up for each other, especially when it comes to the abuse and rape of each other. We always blame the victim. We tell our daughters who have been molested by their mothers’ boyfriends, by their uncles, by their fathers and brothers; we tell our sons who have been molested by their fathers, their uncles, their mothers boyfriends that it’s their fault. That they shouldn’t have been “fast”, that they shouldn’t go around “looking like a hutchie” that they shouldn’t be talking to older men because we give them the wrong idea. We blame our children for their rapes and molestations. We take the predators side, oh well they couldn’t have done that. We tell our boys and young men and men that if a woman has raped you then you must have wanted it. As a whole we have no sense of how our own damn body reacts to sexual stimulation . That having an erection doesn’t mean consent no more than being wet is an answer to yes. We drill into their heads that because an older woman has hit on them and made sexual advances it’s okay when it’s not. He’s a good person, or well he didn’t do it, he goes to the church. HE GOES TO THE CHURCH???? We hide behind the church and the bible to protect the monsters walking our neighborhoods. As if going to church makes you innocent. We ignore our children when they come crying to us, we tell them to stop crying, suck it up, it’s happened to us before (as if that makes it okay, as if us being molested as children makes it okay and excusable for our children to go through the same hurt and abuse). We are emotionally unavailable and distant as a community. We pay more attention to LiL Wayne and Beyoncé than we do to our own damn kids. And that’s sad, horrible and heartbreaking. We silence our women when they speak up about being hit and abused. We tell them to go to church, we shun them for seeking therapy, and we banish them from the community when they point a finger at the “brotha” who hurt them. We tell our black women that they are bringing down men every time they report a rape and abuse and we don’t stand by their side. That’s what we are doing and no one gives a damn about it. We are dying; we are killing ourselves by keeping pain inside. We don’t have to keep holding on to the pain, we don’t have to carry that burden with us, and we don’t have to feel ashamed anymore. We can talk about it, it’s okay, and you’re not the only one out there who’s going through it alone. This blog is for BLACK WOMEN And it is from a black woman’s perspective.



A Little Girls White Dress
My white dress has been
Covered in blood.
My beautiful white dress has been
Beaten so much
The back is ripped and its
Seam is torn.
My sparkly white dress is
Smudged whit unearthly prints
And stains that cannot be
Removed.
My innocent white dress was ripped
Apart into pieces and
Carelessly put back together again.


I’ve tried to burn it, drown it
Pour alcohol on it to set on fire
And it still finds its way to the
Front of my closet
Dirty, fire stains, muddy, smeared with
Blood reeking
Of Jack Daniels, holding on by
A thread.


Sitting in front of what use to be
My white dress, I scream, I bellow
And finally I cry.
Realizing the blood, the torn seam
Smudges and pieces were only visible
To me.


The damage I had done to my own
White dress can be fixed,
Even if I can't get the blood out.
©Golden Rays